Sunday, February 7, 2010
Exercise
Here I am at the end of the first week in February of 2010. I am about 3 weeks late getting started instead of like most everybody else on January 1st but you already know one of my resolutions is curing my procrastination problem. I'm,of course, still working on that one. It won't disappear overnight..... so baby steps.
But I did start one thing.... exercising and small changes in my diet. Since I know a lot of people don't like the word 'diet' I'll switch it to 'food intake'. I do the 10,000 steps a day that Dr. Oz suggested and sit ups. I'm noticing a difference already so I'm sticking with it. Little changes go a long way especially in loosening my clothes. It's amazing what having babies does to a woman's body. Some women are blessed to be given bodies that snap right back to pre-baby shape. I, however, was not one of them. OK, yes I was for the first one. Not so much for the second one. Since I'm noticing the exercising making a dent in the post-baby weight, I will persevere.
And then there's the emotional weight all wound up inside of it. Hanging onto those pounds in the past seemed to make life easier but now I decided 'no more'. Moving on and shaking loose old thoughts not helping me in the now ....... in the present. Exercising is assisting me to work off built up energy, releasing overwhelming frustrations with being the title of wife, mother (all the unmentioned titles that come with being a mother) and career woman. Sometimes too many titles can be cause for all the extra stress.
There was a time when I regularly did 15,000 steps a day. Before husband and children, that is. One day I will be there again. Small changes. One day at a time ..... one minute at a time.
Exercising is helping me to feel good about myself again. For that I'm grateful.
But I did start one thing.... exercising and small changes in my diet. Since I know a lot of people don't like the word 'diet' I'll switch it to 'food intake'. I do the 10,000 steps a day that Dr. Oz suggested and sit ups. I'm noticing a difference already so I'm sticking with it. Little changes go a long way especially in loosening my clothes. It's amazing what having babies does to a woman's body. Some women are blessed to be given bodies that snap right back to pre-baby shape. I, however, was not one of them. OK, yes I was for the first one. Not so much for the second one. Since I'm noticing the exercising making a dent in the post-baby weight, I will persevere.
And then there's the emotional weight all wound up inside of it. Hanging onto those pounds in the past seemed to make life easier but now I decided 'no more'. Moving on and shaking loose old thoughts not helping me in the now ....... in the present. Exercising is assisting me to work off built up energy, releasing overwhelming frustrations with being the title of wife, mother (all the unmentioned titles that come with being a mother) and career woman. Sometimes too many titles can be cause for all the extra stress.
There was a time when I regularly did 15,000 steps a day. Before husband and children, that is. One day I will be there again. Small changes. One day at a time ..... one minute at a time.
Exercising is helping me to feel good about myself again. For that I'm grateful.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Another Legend Gone
I watched the Grammys on Sunday night, not all of it mind you, I don't have the 3 1/2 hours to devote to it like I used to and I haven't watched it in at least 6 years. Being a Bon Jovi fan, I was surprised when the announcers said it was their first performance on the Grammys. Great songs and the guys looked good.
I shed a few more tears when the tribute to Michael Jackson played. It's still hard to believe he is gone. He was, still is and always will be the King of Pop.
Anybody who grew up in the 80's knew the Thriller album, the hit songs, the one white glove and that freaky video. To this day, it is still the coolest video. Oh my gosh, who didn't attempt the moonwalk??
His 'Man in the Mirror' song always stirs my soul, reminding me I can make a difference in the world. It's all a matter of choice.
Sure there are plenty of people who are quick to bring up all the alleged bad things he took part in the last decade or so of his life. Who knows if he did or he didn't, only he and God know for sure. And that's between them now.
The rest of us are left with his music and remembering the huge impact he had on our culture. And with that I will always cherish the memories of my childhood hearing his music in the background.
He was and always will remain the King of Pop.
Here's to you, Michael.....
I shed a few more tears when the tribute to Michael Jackson played. It's still hard to believe he is gone. He was, still is and always will be the King of Pop.
Anybody who grew up in the 80's knew the Thriller album, the hit songs, the one white glove and that freaky video. To this day, it is still the coolest video. Oh my gosh, who didn't attempt the moonwalk??
His 'Man in the Mirror' song always stirs my soul, reminding me I can make a difference in the world. It's all a matter of choice.
Sure there are plenty of people who are quick to bring up all the alleged bad things he took part in the last decade or so of his life. Who knows if he did or he didn't, only he and God know for sure. And that's between them now.
The rest of us are left with his music and remembering the huge impact he had on our culture. And with that I will always cherish the memories of my childhood hearing his music in the background.
He was and always will remain the King of Pop.
Here's to you, Michael.....
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Friendship
What would life be like without my best buds?? Oh, absolutely unbearable!! I literally get teary eyed when I think of my friends..... my best friend's throughout my life, being able to get together without any distractions and catch up, talking, sharing secrets and laughing. Laughing with my girlfriends is the best medicine for me when life gets to be too much. Everything seems easier, even if only for a short time.
One of my best buds, I've known since high school. The guys we were dating at the time introduced us and we've been tight ever since while our significant others changed. We lean on each other through the good and especially the bad, I think that's the true test of a real friendship.... where are they when the times are touch??
It's like a slap to the face when someone I believed was a true blue friend turned on me, manipulating a situation like a director of a soap opera and then denying it when she got caught. It's hard to accept sometimes. A friend's betrayal can be equal to a spouse's betrayal. But then I remember the verse about people being in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Accept the lesson and move on. Forgiveness is in there too but that's another entry for another time.
I was told once that "real" friends will go to the wall for you, get in every body's face so you don't have to. Basically fight your battles for you. I couldn't disagree more. Every battle in our lives needs to be fought by ourselves but our friends will be right next to us, holding our hands and holding us up if we need the strength, or courage.....or both.
I'm not a big fan of the big social networks but then I did find some old friends I lost contact with over the years. So I will give it points for that at least.
Do you have friends, close friends ...... best friends, special girls you can get silly with, embarrass yourself around and laugh with until your sides hurt. If you said "yes", say "thank you for being a part of my life".
For me, it's time to say it again so I'll call them right now. No procrastinating. That resolution thing is still a work in progress.
If you got time listen to "Waiting on a Friend" by the Rolling Stones.
I did.
One of my best buds, I've known since high school. The guys we were dating at the time introduced us and we've been tight ever since while our significant others changed. We lean on each other through the good and especially the bad, I think that's the true test of a real friendship.... where are they when the times are touch??
It's like a slap to the face when someone I believed was a true blue friend turned on me, manipulating a situation like a director of a soap opera and then denying it when she got caught. It's hard to accept sometimes. A friend's betrayal can be equal to a spouse's betrayal. But then I remember the verse about people being in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Accept the lesson and move on. Forgiveness is in there too but that's another entry for another time.
I was told once that "real" friends will go to the wall for you, get in every body's face so you don't have to. Basically fight your battles for you. I couldn't disagree more. Every battle in our lives needs to be fought by ourselves but our friends will be right next to us, holding our hands and holding us up if we need the strength, or courage.....or both.
I'm not a big fan of the big social networks but then I did find some old friends I lost contact with over the years. So I will give it points for that at least.
Do you have friends, close friends ...... best friends, special girls you can get silly with, embarrass yourself around and laugh with until your sides hurt. If you said "yes", say "thank you for being a part of my life".
For me, it's time to say it again so I'll call them right now. No procrastinating. That resolution thing is still a work in progress.
If you got time listen to "Waiting on a Friend" by the Rolling Stones.
I did.
Monday, January 25, 2010
QUOTE
Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself - Ralph Waldo Emerson
The Flip Side of Love
Okay, now I understand the whole love thing, beautiful, peaceful, pleasant, keeps a person warm at night and it helps the world go round, a perfect world and especially one with a few battle scars in it.
What I don't get is the whole hate thing. I don't understand the whole hate a complete race, religion, culture, gender, career, etc. to the point of wanting to wipe them off the face of the earth. It doesn't make any sense to me. Are people that high on themselves they believe their presence here on earth is more important than someone elses and they are willing to harass, torture and murder to prove it? I shake my head because the theory just boggles my mind. And then they suck God in to prove their point. God created ALL of us, every single person, creature, and plant on this earth and then someone comes along saying "I'm more important than you and if you don't agree with me, I need to get rid of you." How stupid is that!!!
But it all boils down to the fear of change. Why are so many afraid of moving forward?? We don't seem to mind all the technological advancements but some can NOT handle change in society as a people. A lot were ecstatic the United States elected, Barrack Obama the first African American president. My reaction was I couldn't figure out why it hadn't happened sooner.
Or the whole gay marriage controversy. Again I don't understand the problem. If they're in love and want to make a commitment who are we to stop them. How does a couple who want to get married you don't even know affect your life? It doesn't. Just like what you do doesn't affect their lives.
I was shocked during the latest Survivor to hear all the racial comments coming from a certain castaway. I won't say his name because he's already quite full of himself and he doesn't need anymore attention. It was disturbing that he sounded so justified and self-righteous while showing off an equally extreme case of male chauvinism.
I'm not sure who I should be more outraged at ..... him, the rest of the castaways who sat back not saying anything or the show for giving him a soapbox to promote racism.
All hatred is a crime against innocent souls and it's been going on for thousands of years. It is 2010 and there are so many of the world's population who hasn't evolved past aggressive controlling behaviour. Hatred leaves permanent imprints on the earth. And then we all comment with curiosity how Mother Nature seems to be turning on us with hurricanes, tornadoes and other extreme elements. Maybe we need to see what's staring us in the face..... all the wars and killing through the centuries is destroying our planet (besides pollution), we are helping to destroy our home.
What's that song I hear playing.... oh yeah "all you need is love.....all you need is love......all you need is love, love.....love is all you need"
Words to live by.
What I don't get is the whole hate thing. I don't understand the whole hate a complete race, religion, culture, gender, career, etc. to the point of wanting to wipe them off the face of the earth. It doesn't make any sense to me. Are people that high on themselves they believe their presence here on earth is more important than someone elses and they are willing to harass, torture and murder to prove it? I shake my head because the theory just boggles my mind. And then they suck God in to prove their point. God created ALL of us, every single person, creature, and plant on this earth and then someone comes along saying "I'm more important than you and if you don't agree with me, I need to get rid of you." How stupid is that!!!
But it all boils down to the fear of change. Why are so many afraid of moving forward?? We don't seem to mind all the technological advancements but some can NOT handle change in society as a people. A lot were ecstatic the United States elected, Barrack Obama the first African American president. My reaction was I couldn't figure out why it hadn't happened sooner.
Or the whole gay marriage controversy. Again I don't understand the problem. If they're in love and want to make a commitment who are we to stop them. How does a couple who want to get married you don't even know affect your life? It doesn't. Just like what you do doesn't affect their lives.
I was shocked during the latest Survivor to hear all the racial comments coming from a certain castaway. I won't say his name because he's already quite full of himself and he doesn't need anymore attention. It was disturbing that he sounded so justified and self-righteous while showing off an equally extreme case of male chauvinism.
I'm not sure who I should be more outraged at ..... him, the rest of the castaways who sat back not saying anything or the show for giving him a soapbox to promote racism.
All hatred is a crime against innocent souls and it's been going on for thousands of years. It is 2010 and there are so many of the world's population who hasn't evolved past aggressive controlling behaviour. Hatred leaves permanent imprints on the earth. And then we all comment with curiosity how Mother Nature seems to be turning on us with hurricanes, tornadoes and other extreme elements. Maybe we need to see what's staring us in the face..... all the wars and killing through the centuries is destroying our planet (besides pollution), we are helping to destroy our home.
What's that song I hear playing.... oh yeah "all you need is love.....all you need is love......all you need is love, love.....love is all you need"
Words to live by.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Love
Ahhhh love...... a many splendor ed thing. Sometimes. When it works in our favour, that is. There are plenty of famous couples throughout history, real and fictional, who it didn't work out for them.....Romeo and Juliet, Scarlett and Rhett, Prince Charles and Lady Diana, etc.
Love is supposed to be the most important thing in our lives, the most important thing in the world.... to love each other, to find that special someone, the infamous soul mate. It's a wonderful emotion falling in love, quite intoxicating and then being in that comfortable stage of love. Pure bliss being part of a connection. And then there are all the great mushy movies, romance novels and songs in the name of love. I have my favourites in every category. All three getting me through my teenage years. Who hasn't clung to the radio listening to a love soaked mournful song about love gone wrong and its beautiful misery.
But it isn't beautiful misery when you are the one blindsided by the unspeakable pain that only loss can bring. Loss isn't funny and it isn't romantic. Why is it for some love is taken from them? Is it the Universe reminding us, we don't know what we got until its gone? To appreciate the precious people in our lives?
And then there's the souls clinging to a relationship no matter how bad, claiming its love but it's really the fear of being alone. Some just want to be with someone, anyone so long as they're not alone. Those are the people who NEED to be alone because they possess a serious fear. And it's not the fear of being alone. It's the fear of being with themselves and only themselves.
I was there a few years ago (being in a very close relationship I mean) and I didn't realize how dependent on it I was until the death of my husband forced me to be alone. In the midst of my grief, I found me. And that is no sappy cliche. It's the God's honest truth. I know what I want and most importantly what I DON'T want and what I won't put up with.... most days.
There was a point I thought I got the whole lesson thing figured out and then I got sucker punched by my own cockiness. I was forced to admit that when it comes to love I didn't learn as much as I thought.
But no matter what, I will always believe in 'happily ever after' even if I need to wait for mine.
Love is supposed to be the most important thing in our lives, the most important thing in the world.... to love each other, to find that special someone, the infamous soul mate. It's a wonderful emotion falling in love, quite intoxicating and then being in that comfortable stage of love. Pure bliss being part of a connection. And then there are all the great mushy movies, romance novels and songs in the name of love. I have my favourites in every category. All three getting me through my teenage years. Who hasn't clung to the radio listening to a love soaked mournful song about love gone wrong and its beautiful misery.
But it isn't beautiful misery when you are the one blindsided by the unspeakable pain that only loss can bring. Loss isn't funny and it isn't romantic. Why is it for some love is taken from them? Is it the Universe reminding us, we don't know what we got until its gone? To appreciate the precious people in our lives?
And then there's the souls clinging to a relationship no matter how bad, claiming its love but it's really the fear of being alone. Some just want to be with someone, anyone so long as they're not alone. Those are the people who NEED to be alone because they possess a serious fear. And it's not the fear of being alone. It's the fear of being with themselves and only themselves.
I was there a few years ago (being in a very close relationship I mean) and I didn't realize how dependent on it I was until the death of my husband forced me to be alone. In the midst of my grief, I found me. And that is no sappy cliche. It's the God's honest truth. I know what I want and most importantly what I DON'T want and what I won't put up with.... most days.
There was a point I thought I got the whole lesson thing figured out and then I got sucker punched by my own cockiness. I was forced to admit that when it comes to love I didn't learn as much as I thought.
But no matter what, I will always believe in 'happily ever after' even if I need to wait for mine.
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