When someone does something good, applaud!! You will make two people happy.
-Samuel Goldwyn
Thursday, January 28, 2010
Friendship
What would life be like without my best buds?? Oh, absolutely unbearable!! I literally get teary eyed when I think of my friends..... my best friend's throughout my life, being able to get together without any distractions and catch up, talking, sharing secrets and laughing. Laughing with my girlfriends is the best medicine for me when life gets to be too much. Everything seems easier, even if only for a short time.
One of my best buds, I've known since high school. The guys we were dating at the time introduced us and we've been tight ever since while our significant others changed. We lean on each other through the good and especially the bad, I think that's the true test of a real friendship.... where are they when the times are touch??
It's like a slap to the face when someone I believed was a true blue friend turned on me, manipulating a situation like a director of a soap opera and then denying it when she got caught. It's hard to accept sometimes. A friend's betrayal can be equal to a spouse's betrayal. But then I remember the verse about people being in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Accept the lesson and move on. Forgiveness is in there too but that's another entry for another time.
I was told once that "real" friends will go to the wall for you, get in every body's face so you don't have to. Basically fight your battles for you. I couldn't disagree more. Every battle in our lives needs to be fought by ourselves but our friends will be right next to us, holding our hands and holding us up if we need the strength, or courage.....or both.
I'm not a big fan of the big social networks but then I did find some old friends I lost contact with over the years. So I will give it points for that at least.
Do you have friends, close friends ...... best friends, special girls you can get silly with, embarrass yourself around and laugh with until your sides hurt. If you said "yes", say "thank you for being a part of my life".
For me, it's time to say it again so I'll call them right now. No procrastinating. That resolution thing is still a work in progress.
If you got time listen to "Waiting on a Friend" by the Rolling Stones.
I did.
One of my best buds, I've known since high school. The guys we were dating at the time introduced us and we've been tight ever since while our significant others changed. We lean on each other through the good and especially the bad, I think that's the true test of a real friendship.... where are they when the times are touch??
It's like a slap to the face when someone I believed was a true blue friend turned on me, manipulating a situation like a director of a soap opera and then denying it when she got caught. It's hard to accept sometimes. A friend's betrayal can be equal to a spouse's betrayal. But then I remember the verse about people being in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Accept the lesson and move on. Forgiveness is in there too but that's another entry for another time.
I was told once that "real" friends will go to the wall for you, get in every body's face so you don't have to. Basically fight your battles for you. I couldn't disagree more. Every battle in our lives needs to be fought by ourselves but our friends will be right next to us, holding our hands and holding us up if we need the strength, or courage.....or both.
I'm not a big fan of the big social networks but then I did find some old friends I lost contact with over the years. So I will give it points for that at least.
Do you have friends, close friends ...... best friends, special girls you can get silly with, embarrass yourself around and laugh with until your sides hurt. If you said "yes", say "thank you for being a part of my life".
For me, it's time to say it again so I'll call them right now. No procrastinating. That resolution thing is still a work in progress.
If you got time listen to "Waiting on a Friend" by the Rolling Stones.
I did.
Monday, January 25, 2010
QUOTE
Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself - Ralph Waldo Emerson
The Flip Side of Love
Okay, now I understand the whole love thing, beautiful, peaceful, pleasant, keeps a person warm at night and it helps the world go round, a perfect world and especially one with a few battle scars in it.
What I don't get is the whole hate thing. I don't understand the whole hate a complete race, religion, culture, gender, career, etc. to the point of wanting to wipe them off the face of the earth. It doesn't make any sense to me. Are people that high on themselves they believe their presence here on earth is more important than someone elses and they are willing to harass, torture and murder to prove it? I shake my head because the theory just boggles my mind. And then they suck God in to prove their point. God created ALL of us, every single person, creature, and plant on this earth and then someone comes along saying "I'm more important than you and if you don't agree with me, I need to get rid of you." How stupid is that!!!
But it all boils down to the fear of change. Why are so many afraid of moving forward?? We don't seem to mind all the technological advancements but some can NOT handle change in society as a people. A lot were ecstatic the United States elected, Barrack Obama the first African American president. My reaction was I couldn't figure out why it hadn't happened sooner.
Or the whole gay marriage controversy. Again I don't understand the problem. If they're in love and want to make a commitment who are we to stop them. How does a couple who want to get married you don't even know affect your life? It doesn't. Just like what you do doesn't affect their lives.
I was shocked during the latest Survivor to hear all the racial comments coming from a certain castaway. I won't say his name because he's already quite full of himself and he doesn't need anymore attention. It was disturbing that he sounded so justified and self-righteous while showing off an equally extreme case of male chauvinism.
I'm not sure who I should be more outraged at ..... him, the rest of the castaways who sat back not saying anything or the show for giving him a soapbox to promote racism.
All hatred is a crime against innocent souls and it's been going on for thousands of years. It is 2010 and there are so many of the world's population who hasn't evolved past aggressive controlling behaviour. Hatred leaves permanent imprints on the earth. And then we all comment with curiosity how Mother Nature seems to be turning on us with hurricanes, tornadoes and other extreme elements. Maybe we need to see what's staring us in the face..... all the wars and killing through the centuries is destroying our planet (besides pollution), we are helping to destroy our home.
What's that song I hear playing.... oh yeah "all you need is love.....all you need is love......all you need is love, love.....love is all you need"
Words to live by.
What I don't get is the whole hate thing. I don't understand the whole hate a complete race, religion, culture, gender, career, etc. to the point of wanting to wipe them off the face of the earth. It doesn't make any sense to me. Are people that high on themselves they believe their presence here on earth is more important than someone elses and they are willing to harass, torture and murder to prove it? I shake my head because the theory just boggles my mind. And then they suck God in to prove their point. God created ALL of us, every single person, creature, and plant on this earth and then someone comes along saying "I'm more important than you and if you don't agree with me, I need to get rid of you." How stupid is that!!!
But it all boils down to the fear of change. Why are so many afraid of moving forward?? We don't seem to mind all the technological advancements but some can NOT handle change in society as a people. A lot were ecstatic the United States elected, Barrack Obama the first African American president. My reaction was I couldn't figure out why it hadn't happened sooner.
Or the whole gay marriage controversy. Again I don't understand the problem. If they're in love and want to make a commitment who are we to stop them. How does a couple who want to get married you don't even know affect your life? It doesn't. Just like what you do doesn't affect their lives.
I was shocked during the latest Survivor to hear all the racial comments coming from a certain castaway. I won't say his name because he's already quite full of himself and he doesn't need anymore attention. It was disturbing that he sounded so justified and self-righteous while showing off an equally extreme case of male chauvinism.
I'm not sure who I should be more outraged at ..... him, the rest of the castaways who sat back not saying anything or the show for giving him a soapbox to promote racism.
All hatred is a crime against innocent souls and it's been going on for thousands of years. It is 2010 and there are so many of the world's population who hasn't evolved past aggressive controlling behaviour. Hatred leaves permanent imprints on the earth. And then we all comment with curiosity how Mother Nature seems to be turning on us with hurricanes, tornadoes and other extreme elements. Maybe we need to see what's staring us in the face..... all the wars and killing through the centuries is destroying our planet (besides pollution), we are helping to destroy our home.
What's that song I hear playing.... oh yeah "all you need is love.....all you need is love......all you need is love, love.....love is all you need"
Words to live by.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Love
Ahhhh love...... a many splendor ed thing. Sometimes. When it works in our favour, that is. There are plenty of famous couples throughout history, real and fictional, who it didn't work out for them.....Romeo and Juliet, Scarlett and Rhett, Prince Charles and Lady Diana, etc.
Love is supposed to be the most important thing in our lives, the most important thing in the world.... to love each other, to find that special someone, the infamous soul mate. It's a wonderful emotion falling in love, quite intoxicating and then being in that comfortable stage of love. Pure bliss being part of a connection. And then there are all the great mushy movies, romance novels and songs in the name of love. I have my favourites in every category. All three getting me through my teenage years. Who hasn't clung to the radio listening to a love soaked mournful song about love gone wrong and its beautiful misery.
But it isn't beautiful misery when you are the one blindsided by the unspeakable pain that only loss can bring. Loss isn't funny and it isn't romantic. Why is it for some love is taken from them? Is it the Universe reminding us, we don't know what we got until its gone? To appreciate the precious people in our lives?
And then there's the souls clinging to a relationship no matter how bad, claiming its love but it's really the fear of being alone. Some just want to be with someone, anyone so long as they're not alone. Those are the people who NEED to be alone because they possess a serious fear. And it's not the fear of being alone. It's the fear of being with themselves and only themselves.
I was there a few years ago (being in a very close relationship I mean) and I didn't realize how dependent on it I was until the death of my husband forced me to be alone. In the midst of my grief, I found me. And that is no sappy cliche. It's the God's honest truth. I know what I want and most importantly what I DON'T want and what I won't put up with.... most days.
There was a point I thought I got the whole lesson thing figured out and then I got sucker punched by my own cockiness. I was forced to admit that when it comes to love I didn't learn as much as I thought.
But no matter what, I will always believe in 'happily ever after' even if I need to wait for mine.
Love is supposed to be the most important thing in our lives, the most important thing in the world.... to love each other, to find that special someone, the infamous soul mate. It's a wonderful emotion falling in love, quite intoxicating and then being in that comfortable stage of love. Pure bliss being part of a connection. And then there are all the great mushy movies, romance novels and songs in the name of love. I have my favourites in every category. All three getting me through my teenage years. Who hasn't clung to the radio listening to a love soaked mournful song about love gone wrong and its beautiful misery.
But it isn't beautiful misery when you are the one blindsided by the unspeakable pain that only loss can bring. Loss isn't funny and it isn't romantic. Why is it for some love is taken from them? Is it the Universe reminding us, we don't know what we got until its gone? To appreciate the precious people in our lives?
And then there's the souls clinging to a relationship no matter how bad, claiming its love but it's really the fear of being alone. Some just want to be with someone, anyone so long as they're not alone. Those are the people who NEED to be alone because they possess a serious fear. And it's not the fear of being alone. It's the fear of being with themselves and only themselves.
I was there a few years ago (being in a very close relationship I mean) and I didn't realize how dependent on it I was until the death of my husband forced me to be alone. In the midst of my grief, I found me. And that is no sappy cliche. It's the God's honest truth. I know what I want and most importantly what I DON'T want and what I won't put up with.... most days.
There was a point I thought I got the whole lesson thing figured out and then I got sucker punched by my own cockiness. I was forced to admit that when it comes to love I didn't learn as much as I thought.
But no matter what, I will always believe in 'happily ever after' even if I need to wait for mine.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
More...... Please?!
Have you ever asked yourself "Is there more than this?". I did. I remember it was January 1996 after a bad breakup. I thought is this it? Nothing but uncertainty and loss. One day shortly after the breakup, I happened across a poem. It read about how nothing is random, the one who has the control in the Universe has a plan for everyone. It was such a simple poem but I experienced my first conscious "AHA" moment.
So back to the question is there more? It isn't about the things, the possessions, the bling. There's no fulfillment there. There will be times I go shopping, an eagerness in me to buy this, that, another one of that and the other thing even though I don't really NEED any of it. Oh yes, I WANT it but once I get home and rifle through the bags, that feeling of regret settles in. Why did I waste $100 on all of this. Now I know $100 doesn't sound like much to some and to others it might feel like a small fortune so replace the $100 with an amount you can relate to that will start the guilt train down the track in your brain. You know what I'm talking about ..... the broken record of put-downs playing in a person's head when you have a vulnerable moment.
Man, don't you just love that depressing one hit wonder? You just can't get it out of your head. At least, I know it's a challenge for me but those moments are getting fewer and farther between.
I want to put something new on the turntable and I'm working on it. Whenever I hear the old broken record start playing I quickly interrupt with new positive affirmations and I repeat them at least 20 times, if not more.
I'm determined to create a new reality for myself. It's been a constant work in progress but everyday for the last 14 years I'm constantly transforming my world and every so often pushing myself to step out of the box.
That fear of change can immobilize a person. I never realized until the moment I got the chance to change my life by doing the unthinkable (in a woman's eyes) and calling up my future husband to ask him out on a date. I was so scared staring at that phone, I burst into tears. So I didn't end up calling him the first night. But I did convince myself on the second night.
Another time was going back to school. I reminded myself that I wanted something better for myself, something "more" that feeling of fulfillment, not to be stuck where I was at that point in my life. Because I felt stuck, literally. It was time to move on. The only one holding myself back was me. I tuned out the naysayers a while before that so don't listen to them.
You never know what you got in store for yourself unless you give yourself a fighting chance. So go for it! What's your more??
So back to the question is there more? It isn't about the things, the possessions, the bling. There's no fulfillment there. There will be times I go shopping, an eagerness in me to buy this, that, another one of that and the other thing even though I don't really NEED any of it. Oh yes, I WANT it but once I get home and rifle through the bags, that feeling of regret settles in. Why did I waste $100 on all of this. Now I know $100 doesn't sound like much to some and to others it might feel like a small fortune so replace the $100 with an amount you can relate to that will start the guilt train down the track in your brain. You know what I'm talking about ..... the broken record of put-downs playing in a person's head when you have a vulnerable moment.
Man, don't you just love that depressing one hit wonder? You just can't get it out of your head. At least, I know it's a challenge for me but those moments are getting fewer and farther between.
I want to put something new on the turntable and I'm working on it. Whenever I hear the old broken record start playing I quickly interrupt with new positive affirmations and I repeat them at least 20 times, if not more.
I'm determined to create a new reality for myself. It's been a constant work in progress but everyday for the last 14 years I'm constantly transforming my world and every so often pushing myself to step out of the box.
That fear of change can immobilize a person. I never realized until the moment I got the chance to change my life by doing the unthinkable (in a woman's eyes) and calling up my future husband to ask him out on a date. I was so scared staring at that phone, I burst into tears. So I didn't end up calling him the first night. But I did convince myself on the second night.
Another time was going back to school. I reminded myself that I wanted something better for myself, something "more" that feeling of fulfillment, not to be stuck where I was at that point in my life. Because I felt stuck, literally. It was time to move on. The only one holding myself back was me. I tuned out the naysayers a while before that so don't listen to them.
You never know what you got in store for yourself unless you give yourself a fighting chance. So go for it! What's your more??
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
QUOTE
Sometimes the most urgent and vital thing you can possibly do is take a complete rest - Ashleigh Brilliant
Messages....
It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks because you're the one living your life. Friends, family, even complete strangers on reality shows have opinions and that's great. Those opinions suit them for their life. Does their 2 cents apply to your life? Does it feel right? Sometimes we want advice so badly we'll take whatever we can get.
I believe the Universe is always sending us messages if we're paying attention but the other stuff is just junk. We need to be able to decipher and filter out the good, important stuff, the gold nuggets of information from the rest of the garbage. But you need to go back to the question, "does it feel right?". The most common answer is "I'm not sure.". The best way to be positive is stop...... literally stop unless of course you're driving. If you're driving, turn down the radio. Now take a deep breath, a breath so deep you inhale right down to your toes. Ask yourself the question again. Now pay attention to your body's reactions. How did your body react? Good feeling or bad feeling. If you're still not sure, keep trying. Practice makes perfect.
Also notice your body's reactions to the people around you. Do you feel drained or uplifted? Some so-called friends and family can be toxic to your spirit if you do not protect yourself. I wish I could avoid every person who sucks the energy out of me like an emotional vampire but unfortunately, I accepted that isn't always possible.
I know messages are everywhere but I don't always notice them. Like lately, I'm dropping things or things are falling down around me. The first part is I'm not grasping on to something. Not sure what though. I don't know exactly what the second one means. Maybe my reality is crumbling down around me. Pretty morbid.
Or then there is constantly asking a question and not noticing a reply. If there is a reply, it's not always obvious. And if you're like me, you need it obvious. If you really need an answer and there isn't one appearing, do everything to avoid the desperation zone. Distract yourself in any way possible which makes it an excellent excuse to work on that hobby. If you don't have one..... find one. All of it is important to staying balanced in the meantime.
And then there are dreams...... Dreams are another way to receive important answers to questions. They're not as weird as they seem at first glance. It's all about symbolism.
But the point is, life is not random. There is a reason for everything so start figuring out why you're on the path in front of you.
I believe the Universe is always sending us messages if we're paying attention but the other stuff is just junk. We need to be able to decipher and filter out the good, important stuff, the gold nuggets of information from the rest of the garbage. But you need to go back to the question, "does it feel right?". The most common answer is "I'm not sure.". The best way to be positive is stop...... literally stop unless of course you're driving. If you're driving, turn down the radio. Now take a deep breath, a breath so deep you inhale right down to your toes. Ask yourself the question again. Now pay attention to your body's reactions. How did your body react? Good feeling or bad feeling. If you're still not sure, keep trying. Practice makes perfect.
Also notice your body's reactions to the people around you. Do you feel drained or uplifted? Some so-called friends and family can be toxic to your spirit if you do not protect yourself. I wish I could avoid every person who sucks the energy out of me like an emotional vampire but unfortunately, I accepted that isn't always possible.
I know messages are everywhere but I don't always notice them. Like lately, I'm dropping things or things are falling down around me. The first part is I'm not grasping on to something. Not sure what though. I don't know exactly what the second one means. Maybe my reality is crumbling down around me. Pretty morbid.
Or then there is constantly asking a question and not noticing a reply. If there is a reply, it's not always obvious. And if you're like me, you need it obvious. If you really need an answer and there isn't one appearing, do everything to avoid the desperation zone. Distract yourself in any way possible which makes it an excellent excuse to work on that hobby. If you don't have one..... find one. All of it is important to staying balanced in the meantime.
And then there are dreams...... Dreams are another way to receive important answers to questions. They're not as weird as they seem at first glance. It's all about symbolism.
But the point is, life is not random. There is a reason for everything so start figuring out why you're on the path in front of you.
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